How to Conquer Your Fear of Moving


Few events in our lives seem to compare to the stress that comes with moving.

Relocation.com's research bears that out. When we queried a sampling of people who moved recently about their level of anxiety of when it came to moving, a whopping 52% said it was high -- of that figure, half said it was 'very high.' Only 19% said their level of anxiety was low.

Let's take a look at the likely sources of anxiety -- and the ways you can feel better about them.

1. Fear of scams
We've all heard horror stories about rogue moving companies that try to jack up the price they quoted you after they get your belongings, and then hold them hostage until you pay.

That has happened and does happen, but it's the minority of moves, and there are several straight-forward ways you can protect yourself that don't require you hiring a detective to sort out the bad guys.

* Don't take a quote over the phone or the Internet -- if the movers can't see your stuff, you can't get an accurate estimate.

* Make sure you're dealing with a mover and not a broker who sells your business to a mover you know nothing about.

* Get at least 3 in-home estimates. This will help you find out what's a reasonable price for your move (and although it sounds like a lot of work, you're spending a lot of money on this move, and entrusting your life's belongings to strangers). And if you get a low-ball quote, steer clear -- there's a good chance the mover is giving you a low quote just to get your business with the intention of jacking up the quote later.

* Check out the movers with the Better Business Bureau, your state's authority of moving to be sure that they're licensed, and the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration's website.

2. Fear of getting it all done
Have a plan, and do bits and pieces of the planning process according to a strict timeline.

For starters, set aside a room as "packing central" -- keep all things related to moving here. And then set a plan for packing the rooms.

3. Fear of valuable stuff getting hurt
If you're really scared, where feasible, just plan to carry it with you in the car -- why fret about something that you can control? If it's a large object, try to move it to the new place BEFORE you move. Or maybe you'd feel safer shipping it out yourself via FedEx or UPS. If you really must have the movers pack it, tell them it's valuable to you, ask them to be extra careful -- and then watch them when they pack it. They're professionals and they know to pack items without damaging them, but being involved in the process will make YOU feel better.

And if you're still worried, check out your options for moving insurance -- or read up on the claims process so that you have an idea of how the process works if something's damaged.

4. Fear that my kids will hate me for moving them
They might, and that's normal. One of the best pieces of advice is to include them in the process. Of course, you don't want the kids picking the moving company, but they can weigh in on which neighborhood they'll live in, or the type of new home they favor. Beyond that, have weekly updates on getting ready for moving -- it will help you keep on track, and will help them stay apprised of your progress. Here are some other tips on easing the transition.

5. Fear of fitting in
Take a trip to your new hometown. Let the kids see the new house, and check out some of the sights. Start getting excited about what a new life can mean to you.

6. Fear of getting everything changed over to the new home
This has actually gotten a lot easier -- you can change your address, sign up for utilities, get a new driver's license, and change auto and homeowners policy -- all on the Internet. If it makes it any easier, set aside a few hours one weekend to do JUST this task.

 
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